The 12 Stepping Stones

Episode Title – Fun, Play and Toys in Your Relationship

Most people have many things that need their attention in their everyday lives. Work, bills, family, children and so many other things need our attention and it is so easy for people to let these things crowd out all personal time with their partner. Whether you’re preparing for a relationship or are in a relationship, host Nikki Leigh and guest Paula (editor in chief of the Evolved World website) share tips and suggestions to help you keep the fun, play and toys in your relationship. For additional tips to keep the fun in your relationship, download the Kissing From Head to Toe report. You are invited to join Ready for Love Radio on Facebook. Find out more about playing with your partner – After the Show on Nikki’s blog.

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The audio show will be posted at http://www.webtalkradio.net/ready-for-love on June 6, 2011

There are various types of touch – gentle, subtle, sensual, intimate and erotic.  Learn why touch is important, benefits of visiting a body worker, tantric touch, sensual and erotic massage, help for trauma survivors and much more. Paul Bagge, the guest, is a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Holistic Bodyworker, and Spiritual Minister, a man who helps women become “The Goddess They Were Born To Be“. For details about the many places you can touch and kiss your partner, get your FREE copy of Nikki Leigh’s report – Kissing From Head to Toe. Connect with Ready for Love Radio on Facebook.

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I took the Loveologist curriculum of courses from Dr Ava at Loveology University. There is so much incredible information that it was overwhelming at times – but I put together a plan. She offers a course called the Master Sexpert course and the Love Coach Certification course.

So, here are the topics in the Master Sexpert course – I finished the Certified Romantic courses first and then moved on to the Master Sexpert courses, which include:

• Anal Pleasure
• Erotic Talk
• Erotic Massage
• Foreplay
• G-Spot
• Kissing
• Oral Sex
• Orgasm
• Pleasing a Man
• Pleasing a Woman
• Power Play
• Sex Fantasies
• Sex Positions
• Sex Taboos
• Sex Toys

The first certificate that I earned was for the Anal Pleasure course. If you would like to see more details about what I’m doing – visit

Course Catalog – https://www.loveologyuniversity.com/CourseCatalogue.aspx

Loveology University Homepage – https://www.loveologyuniversity.com/

These are some of the topics in this course -

• Anal for Women

• Anal for Men

• Anal Taboo

• Orgasm

• Spanking

• Cleansing & Douching

• Masturbation

• Anal Massage  & Fingering

• Toys & Butt Plugs

• Lubrication

• Prostate Massage

Anal Pleasure

This Course Is For You If:  You want to Approach Your Lover for the First Time About Having Anal Sex You want to Learn The Art of Anal Massage You want to Discover the Best Anal Sex Positions You want to  Know How to Enhance Anal Sex with Toys Welcome to Loveology University’s Anal Pleasure Certification Course. Here you will learn why anal pleasure is still taboo in some places, even though research shows it has been around and enjoyed since ancient Roman times. The do’s and don’ts of anal sex are spelled out for you in the name of safety. You’ll want to know the best positions for anal pleasuring and guidelines on STD’s you can catch from unsafe anal sex. How to approach your partner for the first time about anal sex can be tricky, but with these tips it will be a cinch. If you haven’t experienced an anal orgasm, you’ll find out how you can in this course. With all the various lubes and toys there is no reason why you can’t enjoy anal sex and experience mind-blowing orgasms with someone who also appreciates the erotica of back door sex.  Course Price: $49.95

http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=45

Over the past several years or so, a variety of alternative therapies have become more and more popular among the masses—one of which is acupuncture. Acupuncture has a number of benefits and positive effects. But chances are that you didn’t realize it could also have a positive impact on your sex life.

A study in January 2010 conducted by Henry Ford Hospital showed that acupuncture effectively reduces hot flashes (even more so than drugs) and helps boost sex drive. The study was conducted specifically with breast cancer patients in mind; however, these benefits can be helpful for even those unaffected by the disease. The study focused on two groups of women for twelve weeks; one group received acupuncture therapy while the other relied on Venlafaxine drug therapy. While at the start of the study, both groups experienced up to a 50% reduction in night sweat and hot flash symptoms, the group receiving drug therapy experienced an increase in symptoms at the end of the treatment period. The group receiving acupuncture did not experience this increase in symptoms.

While boosting your sex drive and soothing those hot flashes that can come with menopause may seem like reason enough to give acupuncture a try, those of you having issues becoming pregnant may want to give it a shot also. Acupuncture reportedly promotes blood circulation in the pelvic area, improving ovarian function. It also helps to improve the thickness of uterine lining, enhance uterine blood flow, and promote follicle production, all of which promotes a healthier reproductive system. In fact, in 2002, German researchers showed that when women undergoing in vitro fertilization (IVF) used acupuncture, their success rate increased by nearly 50%.

As you can see, acupuncture has quite the effect on the body’s reproductive system. Studies have shown it to boost sex drive, soothe hot flashes and night sweats, and help to make IVF more effective.

Katrina Robinson is a guest writer and blogger for eDrugstore.MD, a leading safe U.S. online medication facilitator since 2001 where customers can purchase Viagra online. For more tips on relationships check out our Dating Coaches Podcast Page.

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You can benefit by developing a healthy self-love. Learning to love yourself helps you develop self-esteem, self-respect and confidence. These traits enable you to find and enjoy a healthy, happy and satisfying love. Loving yourself can also lead to a very satisfying love life. To learn more about how to Make it Happen! Discover More Love and Passion, click here. Tune in to help yourself, whether you’re single and looking for love or if you’d like to make an existing relationship even better.

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Anal sex is still considered taboo by many people – for some people this is more of a turn on, for others that is a turn off. Whether you enjoy anal sex, want to give it a try or are just curious, read on for the steps to anal pleasure.

Anal penetration is not for everyone and that’s fine. Your partner may enjoy digital penetration, anal beads or a small dildo or vibrator. You need to respect your partner’s limitations and boundaries. Some people really enjoy anal play – but others do not.

Anal sex is becoming more acceptable and likely people you know are enjoying anal pleasure, whether they admit it to you or not. Let’s start with some basics. What are some reasons why people enjoy anal sex –

Reasons Why Some People Like Anal Sex

• “It feels good.”
• “I can’t get pregnant.”
• “It’s an alternative when I have my period.”
• “Vaginal sex is painful.”
• “I like double penetration.”
• “It is deeper than my mouth or vagina.”
• “I like the variety.”
• “I tried it and liked it.”
• “It is tighter.”

Prepare Yourself for Anal Play

For people who are leery of experimenting with anal play with your partner, you can try some of these tips on your own. When you are in the shower and when you’re participating in some self-love – you can test the waters to see if you may enjoy it. When you are bathing or showering and cleaning your anus – you can test a few things.

Use a clean hand to stroke your penis or your clitoris – depending on whether you’re a man or a woman. This will distract you and prompt feelings of stimulation which you can then associate with anal play.

Tense and tighten your anus – then let go. Repeat this several times while you continue to masturbate.

Take the opportunity to play with your anus in the bath or shower. Touch the area around your anus, maybe stroke the opening, and you may slip your finger in a little bit to see how it feels.

Massaging around the anal area with or without any plan to penetrate the anus will let you enjoy the pleasurable feelings without the apprehension of penetration. Any time you massage any part of the body, use massage oil or lube. This enhances the pleasure and reduces friction.

Using genital and anal play at the same time – can create a distraction and also enhance or double your potential pleasure.

Never rush the play – whether you’re playing by yourself or with a partner. Take your time. I recommend pushing your normal boundaries and experimenting, but if you truly don’t enjoy something, you should stop.

An anal tip – even with plenty of lube, you are likely to have some discomfort. Once the penetration passes a certain point, you can sense a very pleasurable feeling. With fingers and toys, you can also experiment with various size items, or only 1 or 2 fingers at first. Ease into it – literally and be patient. This is a reason why I recommend experimenting on your own before playing with a partner.

Anal Play Tips with Your Partner

Let’s start with a couple of facts – never rush your partner into something they aren’t comfortable doing. And, never do something that makes you uncomfortable just to please your partner. This is one of the many places in a relationship where you need open and honest communication. Once you decide that you are both ready for anal play, here are some tips.

Never Insist on Penetration – You don’t have to penetrate the anus to generate pleasurable sensations for your partner or yourself. Rubbing the anus with your fingers, the head of the penis, a toy or a tongue (known as rimming) – can all create great sensations. This can be a great start for people who are skittish about anal penetration.

Create Good Feelings – Like I mentioned above, anal sex can hurt and especially at first. But I’m very serious that it doesn’t have to hurt. Plenty of lube is a key – and there are specific lubes for anal play. Another key is to make sure he or she are relaxed and calm. It the person receiving anal play is tense, it will hurt more. Never take the “rip off the bandaid” approach. Shoving your fingers, a toy or a penis in quickly will not alleviate the pain and is likely to turn your partner off to the idea of future play.

Anal Play and Other Play at the Same Time – Like I mentioned above – its good to play with your partner’s anus while you’re doing something else with them. You may want to give your partner oral sex while you massage their anus with your finger or the tip of a toy – can be a great way to show them the possible pleasure, while you please other parts of their body. Multitasking is a great thing in life and definitely when having sex and making love. Never do this to trick your partner, but to begin to experiment with their agreement. Many women enjoy double penetration – and you can give her a taste of this sensation during intercourse with two people or one person and a toy.

Diet and Hygiene – Not to get graphic, but there are some things you need to consider to make your anal play more enjoyable and healthy. Eating fiber and raw vegetables will keep your bodily functions more regular, and this will help you be more confident about no “slip ups” during anal sex. Enemas can also be beneficial and especially for people who want to participate in anilingus and rimming – since these include oral contact around the anus. When engaging in any type of anal play, remember to clean your hands, penis, toys etc – when moving from the anus to the vagina. You can use a washcloth, a baby wipe, a different condom etc – but it is very important for her to stay healthy.

I hope these tips help you find ways to experiment and enjoy anal play – solo or with a partner. Remember, keep it fun and enjoyable for you and your partner and take your time to have the most fun.

Would you like to speak to someone about sexual questions in your life? Feel free to contact me at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com – I am a relationship coach and a Master Sexpert and can help people with a wide variety of love, relationship, and sexual problems and concerns.

Respect is a basic human value. It is defined as an attitude of admiration or esteem for a person. This feeling is generally a result of how we feel about a person’s achievements. How much we care for the person can also contribute to the respect we show to them. While all people deserve respect, not many of they receive this.

Everyone wants to be respected by others but not everyone gets respect and some don’t act in a way that makes them deserving of it. To start, let’s define a person who deserves our respect.

First of all, keep in mind that in order to demand or expect respect, you will have to treat others with equal amount of respect. I’ve heard the phrase “demand respect” my entire life. But, I feel people earn our respect through their actions, words and deeds.

‘Respect’ is just a word, but what it means and how it reflects on us can make all the difference in how we see ourselves and others — and how we relate to future possibilities and choices.

Respect in Your Relationship

I feel the keys to a successful relationship include: open honest communication, trust, love and respect. These traits help us shine in the good times but also build our strength and resolve in the tough times.

Many successful relationships have been built around different political or religious believes, but it all boils down to respect. They are based on the belief that both partners are equal, that the power and control in the relationship are equally share. In a relationship, respect means listening each other, valuing each other’s opinions, and understanding the other’s emotions.

If you want to encourage and develop respect with your partner, here are some helpful tips.

First of all it is very important to have self-respect. Treat yourself with respect. If she sees that you don’t have any respect for yourself she might decide she doesn’t have to show you respect either, because it is not important to you.

Give what you take. Show respect if you want to be respected. Everyone wants to be admired and appreciated. If you show your girlfriend that she is important to you, she is more likely to show how important you are to her. Be attentive, give compliments, and make her feel comfortable and content with you. Admire and respect the person you are with and listen when she talks. She’ll love to spend time with you.

Relax. Women sometimes think men are mediocre because they have a boring personality. So, when you have a date with her relax and have fun and she will feel great with you. If she finds you uptight and boring you may get dumped. If you make her feel good she will respect you for the funny guy you are, it is a great quality to be able to make her smile even when she is sad.

Don’t lie. We all know women don’t like to be lied to. If she caught you in a lie she will definitely not have respect for you. But, if she sees that you are sincere with her, she will be proud of you and show more respect for you.

Be confident and polite. Look into her eyes when she talks to you and make her feel that you are a person she can trust. Show her that she can talk with you about any subject or problem and can count on your help. Don’t forget to be polite, this will bring mutual respect.

Both people in a relationship need to show respect and to have their partner show respect for them. Here are some ways you can do that for one another.

• Let each other feel comfortable about themselves
• Be able to when you’re wrong
• Be willing to compromise
• Respect each other’s opinions, feelings and friends
• Try to resolve conflicts by talking honesty
• Accept when one of you say no to things you don’t want to do

So, take a deep look at your relationship to see if you and your partner are doing these things for one another. If not, you should work on cultivating more respect for one another.

Kissing is something that most men and women enjoy and we know the mechanics of basic kissing. Let’s take a look deeper into kissing, you may even learn something new. Here’s a kissing fun fact.  Kissing releases endorphins and neurotransmitters (chemicals) like Dopamine, responsible for emotional arousal and Noradrenaline for physical arousal.  I wasn’t great at science is school – but that is the kind of chemistry I can enjoy.

I’ve heard the skin on the lips is 200 times more sensitive than the fingers. You’re aroused by touching your partner with your fingers, but it is much more stimulating to touch your partner’s lips in a kiss.

Many people like to have their neck and jaw kissed, but how about kissing the ear? Here are some tips and a warning or two. First, the tips – you can suck gently on your partner’s earlobe and run the tip of your tongue along the edge of the ear. Pay attention to your partner and how they react to these various things and then you will know what they prefer. Second – don’t make too much noise when you’re kissing the ear – remember you are right playing with the ear so everything is louder. Also, don’t be slippery wet with your play – a nice mix between too wet and too dry I great. Dr Ava, founder of Loveology University, says you get extra points for taking this opportunity to whisper something naughty to your partner.

Do you ever kiss your partner with your lips together, but your hips away from one another? William Cane, kissing coach and author of The Art of Kissing has a suggestion. If you want to crank up the heat and the intimacy, take a step closer and bring your hips together. Even clothed, pressing your hips together will heat things up between you.

I saw a report that said half of the men say that long, hot, steamy kisses are a great way to get them ready for sex. There are other ways to get him ready – like dropping your clothes to the floor or simply saying that you want him. But hot, steamy kisses are a way that you can both enjoy and that will get both your juices flowing.

Many men enjoy or at least fantasize about watching women together, kissing, fondling or having sex. A December 2008 Cosmo poll says that over half the women between 18 and 24 have kissed another woman. However, less than half the women between 25 and 34 have kissed another woman.

Would you have sex with a bad kisser? An article from eHarmony.com says that the answer to that question depends on whether you’re a man or a woman. Men are at least twice as likely to have sex with a bad kisser than women. Men, women – do you agree with their thoughts?

When your partner leaves, do you get a peck on the cheek or a full kiss on the lips? Kissing is one of the first things that can disappear in a relationship, so a first signal could be that the kisses get more innocent and shorter. If you notice your partner is barely kissing you – reach up, slide your fingers into his hair and pull his mouth closer to yours and remind him of how steamy things can be between you.

Have you noticed that men tend to do more open mouth kissing and become more aggressive as he gets more turned on? According to a study by the University of Albany, this isn’t a coincidence. Evidently, he wants to share the libido boosting testosterone with you, so he does this through an open mouth kiss.

Dr Ava also says that coy kisses aren’t enough sometimes. If you’re looking to turn up the heat with your partner – passionate, toe curling kisses will elevate your blood pressure, make your heart beat faster, get you excited and make it easier to orgasm. So, you can go for a short jog or you can enjoy some passionate kissing with your partner to get your heart pumping. Sounds like an easy choice for me…

Did you know that kissing involves a number of muscles? Twenty muscles have to coordinate for a kiss. Maybe that’s why not all kissers are equal.  The tongue is an important part of French kisses and body kisses and the tongue is made up of a group of muscle that makes it the strongest in the body – how do you work out your tongue? By the way – you have a “kissing muscle” which is used to pucker and its called the “orbicularis oris muscle”.

This information is included in my upcoming book about the Art of Kissing. While you’re waiting for the complete book, take a look at my FREE report on the Art of Kissing from Head to Toe – A Love Prints Report – http://myfreeinformationarticles.com/kissing-head-to-toe/

Many people begin to worry about how to maintain their sex drive over 60. This can vary depending on the sex life they have had earlier in life. However, some people and especially women may feel more sexually free and enjoy sex more after menopause.

Sex is a satisfying part of most couple’s lifestyle and not something they want to lose. It is normal for a person’s sex drive to diminish as they get older. Specifically, those over 60 may find it is harder to get into the mood or to get their body to respond physically the way they want it to. Let’s share some tips that can help you and your partner – or feel free to share with friends or family who can benefit.

There are things you can do to help maintain your sex drive as you get older. Living a healthy lifestyle is going to have a significant impact for you so don’t blow it off. What you choose to do today is going to affect your health and your level of sexual desire as you get older.

Eating a well balanced diet is something you should incorporate into your life. If you aren’t doing it now, then start to make some small changes. As time goes on you will adjust to these changes and they will become second nature to you. Consuming too much caffeine can be a problem. If you aren’t getting all the vitamins and nutrients you need from food, you should take a quality supplement.

Make sure you take the time to exercise at least 30 minutes each day as well. Walking is very common for older individuals – it is low impact but very good for the body. Get a companion such as a friend or a dog that you can walk with each day. Some malls and other locations have indoor walking clubs which are perfect when the weather turns cold.

Maintaining a healthy weight is very important for your sex drive. The combination of a good diet with plenty of exercise will help you in this area. It also helps you feel great about how you look. Too many people are inhibited about sex as their body has changed from what it once was. That is going to be a fact of life for all of us.

Being happy with your body is important. Too many people start to notice all the small flaws as they get older. They will see every line and wrinkle on their body so they aren’t comfortable during sex. They don’t have self confidence that they are still desirable. They aren’t able to let go and enjoy what is taking place because they are too focused on such details.

Reducing the amount of stress in your life is important at all ages, but especially as you get older too. The toll it can take on both your body and your mind is more than most of us realize. Most people cannot be worry free as they get older. If your finances or relationships aren’t in the best shape, it can be hard to get past. But, do your best to reduce as much stress from your life as you can. It will help you in many ways and it will certainly help your sex drive because you won’t be preoccupied with other things.

If you are healthy as you get older, you will find it easier to maintain your sex drive and your sex life. Both men and women have the ability to be turned on sexually until a very late age in life. Men and women both have the ability to continue having orgasms into those later years as well. It all comes down to how fit a person is physically and mentally.

Age is merely a number though as anyone over 60 can tell you. Many of them continue to enjoy a sex life that is as wonderful as people in their 40s. It is something you can strive for in your own life as well. Make sure you are making healthy choices today so you won’t have too many issues that reduce your sex drive as you get older.