Sometimes actions speak louder than words, but there are times when words are important too. In a relationship, each partner wants and needs verbal assurance of their partner’s love. Saying I love you and expressing how much important your partner is to you is one of the best ways to assure your partner. So, on Valentine’s Day, lovers should not miss an great opportunity to say something nice to a person he or she loves.

You might have heard these worn out phrases:

• You are the love of my life
• You are my only true love
• I cannot live without you

But why not try some new and different. For instance, 1 Corinthians tells us that “love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not envy, it is not proud…”

If you want literary pieces, there is this quotable Shakespeare. Listed below are lines from varying literary pieces of Shakespeare:

• Love is not love that alters when alteration finds

• Love looks not with the eyes but with the mind; and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind

• All days are nights to see till I see thee, And nights bright days when dreams do show thee to me

You may prefer philosopher giants like Socrates, Aristotle and Thoreau. They too are often quoted when they describe the feeling of love.

• The hottest love has the coldest end –Socrates

• Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies –Aristotle

• There is no remedy to love but to love more –Thoreau

Religious icons such as St. Augustine and Mother Teresa have a lot to say about love.

• Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all –St. Augustine

• If you judge people, you have no time to love them –Mother Teresa

Love quotes can also be culled from novels, plays and poems like the one from Les Miserables: To love another person is to see the face of God.

Charles Dickens in one of his novels wrote, “Never close your lips to those whom you have opened your heart.” Meanwhile, Charlie Brown wrote, “Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love.” Here are some well-known quotes from writers:

• Love is the true means by which the world is enjoyed: our love to others, and others’ love to us.” –Thomas Trahern.

• True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime but lust just pushes away.” – Alicia Barnhart

• “The Eskimos have 52 words for snow because it is so special to them; there ought to be as many for love!” – Margaret Atwood

• Love reckons hours for months, and days for years; and every little absence is an age.” –John Dryden.

Indeed, these quotes are beautiful to hear on Valentine’s Day. However, lovers should not forget that you could never go wrong with real words coming from the heart.

For my initial thoughts about maintaining self-love during heartbreak and a crisis, you can find the introduction in this post — http://lovecoachjourney.com/1462/maintain-improve-love-yourself/

Remove myself from the negativity that is causing me grief. This is not always possible to do for extended periods of time as we may live or work with the cause of our heartache. But most of us can find a few moments each day to either be alone or with people who lift us up. After all most of us would rather be alone than with people who depress us.

Keep Busy. When I need to work through an issue I keep my hands busy with constructive mindless projects… cleaning out my closet, purging old clothes, rearranging my furniture or garage, gardening, baking, reading, working out, cleaning my truck, what ever it is that we can do that allows us to still think about the issue without losing our minds from idleness. This allows my mind to work through the issue and I am being progressive and distracted enough to allow my subconscious to work on the issue as I am aware that my subconscious will eventually bring the solution to my conscious state of thinking. I know getting off the couch or out of bed to do anything when we feel so heavy is almost impossible but you must get up and keep moving, doing something positive even if it only one little project per day!

Speak Positively. “I will be ok. I will get through this. Time will take care of me.

I am worthy, I just have to keep moving, keep busy.” Tell yourself, “what has happened to me is the door to a better life but I just cannot open that door yet because I am still refusing to believe it has happened and I still hurt, but I will get there, I will open that new door and allow a new way of life to present itself.”

Also we have to consciously and physically do things that will speed up the process of getting back to “normal.”

Eat or stop eating, which ever one you tend to do when you are suffering. I don’t eat which weakens the brain and body making me unable to function making my brain and body weak and I think the worst insecure thoughts when I don’t feed myself, plus I have no strength to get up. I make a conscious effort now to eat something, especially in the morning making sure my brain is fed and I think healthier thoughts with more energy.

Over eating not only adds fat to our body that we do not need, it feeds our brain with guilt and shame adding to the already self loathing we may be feeling, put the fork down and go for a walk!

Do not consume alcohol to mask the pain or do drugs that are not prescribed by your doctor. Alcohol is a depressant and will only magnify your sorrow and pathetic is what you become. Drugs will mask your pain for a minute but as soon as you sober up…the pain will have intensified because of the guilt associated with the alcohol and drug use and the vicious cycle of abuse begins. Soon you will find yourself so far down the depression chart you have no idea how to climb back up…but you can…put the bottle down and throw the drugs away…they are for happier times of celebration, which you will have and that glass of wine will taste so much sweeter.

Do not e-mail, pick up the phone to make calls or text to the person who has caused your heartache, especially if you have been drinking or doing drugs, you will only make yourself feel and appear pathetic and needy…pathetic and needy is a gross feeling which contributes to our low self esteem and we want to feel proud of our selves for getting past the moments of wanting to make contact. As each day goes by the prouder you will feel.

Do not to stay in bed or on the couch. Get up, shower, and get dressed. This will make you feel and look better to yourself. And there is no one but you who deserves to feel and look good for.

Avoid negativity. Stay close to people who lift you up! I know it is almost impossible to avoid all negativity but do your best to move away from it when you recognize it. Negative words, personalities and generally people who are always finding the worst about every situation and talking about our sorrow in a negative demeaning way only prolongs our agony….get away from them!

Talk. Don’t keep all the anxiety inside allowing it to build up, speak with at least one person who will listen, truly listen to you. It does not have to be a professional, not every one can afford professional therapy. Find that one person you can trust to tell your feelings to that is not the person who has contributed to your pain. This kind of release will help put your scattered mind back in some order. If you have no one to speak with there are community counsellors who will listen…find someone, do not try to do this by yourself, let someone know what is happening to you. I had two people who are not in my town but I call them as soon as I feel myself slipping back to being sad, they remind me of the good things in my life.

Sleep. We all need to sleep but no matter how tired our bodies are, when our minds won’t shut down sleep becomes elusive, making us more weak and vulnerable and susceptible to dis-ease. We repair our bodies and mind when we sleep. It is so easy to get our sleep patterns confused when we are suffering. Try to get up early and stay up until a reasonable time to go back to bed. Get physical to tire yourself out; this helps with the mind too! Get up when you wake up, even if it is in the middle of the night because staying in bed when you are awake allows your mind to depress you more. Get up and do something constructive, such as read a book, a craft or hobby that preoccupies your hands and mind until you are tired again.

The love we develop for ourselves. Soon you will find that time has passed and the pain has eased. The moment you realize you have turned a corner and are not so depressed or filled with anxiety, that is the moment we wish we could bottle to use in the future. Unfortunately we cannot bottle our level emotions and please understand that a smell, a photo, a name on a street sign post, an old sweater or movie will trigger memories but because we have done everything we can for ourselves to become strong again, we do not fall as far as we once did. We have developed a love for our life that was not there before the heartache and the feelings we once had of unworthiness and self loathing disappear. Today it amazes me how I want to be thankful for the heartache…I would never have developed this strength without going through it.

Continue to focus only on the positive aspects of your life, let the negative move through you without affecting you; it will pass, you will be strong and proud of yourself again….I promise!

For more information about Unfinished by Suzanne Gravelle, visit http://www.amazon.com/Unfinished-Suzanne-Gravelle/dp/192700506X and you can follow her journey on her blog – http://ontourwithsuzanne.blogspot.com.

When we are suffering a heartache, regardless of what has caused it, our minds tend to be ruled by our heart. Although we may have experienced many emotional crises in our life, each new crisis feels like the first time as each new heartache is brand new to us, we have not done this one before, it is a first. Emotions we never experienced before race through our bodies making us weak and vulnerable. We feel as if we will not make it through the day let alone the next few minutes without breaking down.

There are many stages of we must go through before we can start to accept our heart aches and move on from it and unfortunately we have no choice but to endure each stage.  These stages range from very low to extreme highs. It would be fantastic if we were able to control our emotions and skip right to recovery….but if we could do this we would not gain the wisdom or the new found strength and love we find for our selves that comes with surviving the trauma we are going through.

We swing through the emotions when they first come upon us, first we feel them, then the tears start to fall, then we start telling our selves to stop, and the next thing we know we are in a full blown emotional breakdown and we cannot, no matter how hard we try to convince our selves, we cannot stop the wave of unbelievable sadness that is moving through us.

To me, the worst parts are the self doubts and fearful feelings I cannot control.

“What’s wrong with me? What did I do? What could I have done differently to prevent this from happening?” Just a few questions we ask ourselves and the first one… “What’s wrong with me?” is the one that I had to address first.

“There is nothing wrong with me,” that is the answer. But why couldn’t I control the situation and prevent the crisis from happening? Because…we are only in control of ourselves. We make conscious decisions everyday that affect us and those we love and most of us believe they are the right decisions. When someone else is making decisions that affect us in an adverse way it is out of our control, we can only respond to their decisions and when we are in disbelief that this has happened to us it is difficult to take the steps to move on….but we must if we ever want to truly laugh again.

I felt insecure, not worthy, I devalued myself because of someone else’s decisions and I had to find a way to bring myself back to a place where I felt worthy and find a way to pick my self esteem up off the floor. This was not easy because I was emotionally beat up and bruised, but I was determined because deep down…I knew I was worth it!

So this is what I have done to help myself and continue to do.

In the next post, I’ll share my favorite tips…. here, http://lovecoachjourney.com/1468/maintain-improve-love-for-yourself/

For more information about Unfinished by Suzanne Gravelle, visit http://www.amazon.com/Unfinished-Suzanne-Gravelle/dp/192700506X and you can follow her journey on her blog – http://ontourwithsuzanne.blogspot.com.

For many years, guys and gals growing up getting their sex cues from Hollywood romances didn’t have a clue about how to kiss. That changed with more realistic kisses coming to the movies, but now the pendulum has gone beyond that point with most movie kisses looking like the two combatants are consuming each other for lunch.

This has caused more than a few folks to fail to understand how a kiss should work, and what methods might be employed to arouse the ardor in a lover with a simple kiss.

Unlike today’s movies, you shouldn’t jump into your lover’s mouth like a high-speed chase through a tunnel. Instead, build her anticipation by kissing all around her face. Begin your kiss slowly and gently with emotion and sensitivity.

First, kiss without using your tongue, slightly open mouthed, with sweet breath. Only after this initial modest kiss should you start to get serious, and only when your lover indicates that she’s ready for more (usually by using her tongue or by opening her mouth more widely to invite your tongue in).

From this point, there are a variety of ways you can continue this interplay:

• Take your lover’s bottom lip between the two of yours and suck gently.

• Trace the outline of your lover’s lips with the tip of your tongue.

• While kissing, lick you lover’s teeth with your tongue.

• To increase sexual excitement, make your kiss wet.

• Wrap your lips around your lover’s tongue and suck passionately.

• Use hot or cold liquids to create erotic sensations.

• Kissing her eyelids and ears.

The key to success in all this is to go slowly, and to keep things modest especially with the first few kisses. Be sure to follow your lover’s kissing techniques and emulate them. Little by little the two of you will learn what works best.

Then put your knowledge to good use, bringing her slowly closer to consummating your encounter.

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Although a breast augmentation is generally safe and give most women great results, you need to take into account the possible risks and complications that go with any surgical intervention. To help you make an informed decision, here’s an overview of the potential health problems of breast enlargement surgery.

Risks during surgery

All surgeries carry risks, even with the most experienced surgeons. The most common risks are from reactions to the general anesthesia, either because of allergies or a bad dose calculation. Make sure you have a certified anesthesiologist assisting your surgeon.

Breast augmentation surgery also carries risks of excessive bleeding and hematomas. You will be given instructions to avoid blood thinners a few weeks before the surgery.

Your surgical wounds may become infected during or after the surgery. This can easily be taken care of with antibiotics, but you must contact your doctor about problems or concern.

Risks around the implant

A breast implant is a foreign object in your body, and as such it also may provoke a bad reaction from your body. These include:

• Capsular contracture. A capsular contracture is the formation of scar tissue around the implant that will make it look unnatural and potentially painful. While scar tissue is normal, severe capsular contracture might require further surgery or even a breast implant replacement.
• Displacement. Any time after surgery, your breast implant may move out of its ideal position, to the side or downward. This is an uncommon problem but is most likely to happen with larger implants.
• Deflation and rupture. Saline implants deflate and silicone implants rupture. Saline deflation is safer than silicone rupture, as your body naturally absorbs saline. A silicone rupture, however, carries health risks that might provoke a capsular contracture. Both problems require further surgery and the replacement of the implant.
• Rippling. Rippling is a somewhat common problem with saline implants, where the saline moves around in the implant and makes ripples in the implant that show through the skin.
• Sloshing. Sloshing happens in saline implants. Saline may move in the implant, producing a soft sloshing sound that may only be perceivable by the women with the implant. It does not happen with silicone implants.

Other risks

There are also some physiological problems that may derive from getting breast implants:

• Mammography interference. Implants can get in the way of mammography because it hides up to 25% of your breast tissue. Implants installed under the muscle are less likely to interfere than those put over the muscle. Self-exams are still effective, however, and you can also get MRIs and ultrasounds without any problems.
• Nipple desensitization. Breast surgery involves removing the nipple and placing it back at a more aesthetic position on the augmented breast. This carries a 15% risk of numbness and loss of sensation.

Before undergoing breast enlargement surgery, you should be aware of all the risks and possible complications. You should forego getting the intervention if you are not ready to accept the risks. Even though a small proportion of women suffer from any of these, there are always risks with any kind of cosmetic interventions.

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Breast cancer has become one of the leading causes of deaths among women in the world. In 2010, an estimated 207,090 new cases of invasive breast cancer were expected to be diagnosed in women in the U.S., along with 54,010 new cases of non-invasive (in situ) breast cancer.It the second leading cause of cancer death in the US. It is, in fact, the most common malignancy problem that is affecting women in North America and Europe today.

But what is breast cancer and how do people get it?

Breast cancer occurs when malignant tumors in the breast grow and start to affect other tissues in the body. There is still no clear indications how tumors are created but often the cancerous cells come from ducts or glands.

Although women’s health organizations advise women to massage their breasts daily and to feel for any lumps, it can be a long time before a cancerous cell is big enough for us to feel it. By that time, it may be too late. Doctors make use of mammograms for their diagnosis.

At risk

All women are at risk and the risk increases with various factors that are part of the natural cycle, for example, getting older. A family history of breast cancer can significantly affect the prognosis as heredity has been found to play a role. Women who got their periods before they were 12 years old and those who never had or had children after 30 years old are also more likely to develop breast cancer.

There are other risk factors that medical science can help such as hormonal problems through replacement therapies. These include advising women to decrease their consumption of alcoholic drinks, to exercise every day and to decrease the use of birth control pills. Breastfeeding has also been found to decrease the risk of breast cancer development.

Factors That Contribute to Breast Cancer

Although there are some factors women can avoid to prevent breast cancer from developing, the cause and effect relationships between these factors and breast cancer is still debatable. For women who are already at high risk, doctors often recommend a drug called Tamoxifen, which is known to decrease the risk by as much 50 percent when taken in five years. Like all medications, Tamoxifen has side effects such as hot flashes, vaginal discharge and sometimes blood clots. Taking the drug can lead to pulmonary embolus, stroke and uterine cancer, although these are all isolated cases.

Another alternative for women is to use Vitamin A, which some studies show to be effective in decreasing the risk. This research is still in the initial stages and nothing has been proven definitely yet. Other things that are being linked to the breast cancer fight are phytoestrogens, which can be found in soya, Vitamin E, and Vitamin C.

Until something concrete is discovered through research, the only thing women can do to ensure they are safe from breast cancer – is early detection. This can be done through daily self-examinations as well as annual check-ups and mammogram tests. It is important that women understand the initial stages of breast cancer. Here are some of the signs that they should watch out for.

• Lumps in the breast and in the underarms
• Scaling of the skin of the breast and of the nipple
• Redness in the skin of the breast and of the nipple
• Changes in the size of their breasts
• Discharges from the nipple

If these signs are observed, it is best to consult a specialist so they can do further testing to determine if you have breast cancer or not.

Special Note - During August, September and October of 2011, I’m sharing information about breast cancer in conjunction with The Flawless Beauty Photo Contest. The contest is a part of a fundraising event I’m coordinating to benefit The Breast Cancer Research Foundation. We invite you to enter and share a picture that shows your beauty – don’t worry if you’re not “flawless” – none of us are, but we want to see “your inner and outer beauty” And, the first prize winner, will win a 75 carat black diamond necklace worth about $7500. For more details, visit http://www.jonravencontest.com

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Breast cancer occurs because of the irrepressible growth of cells in the breast that invade the nearby tissues and it spreads throughout the body. These collections of irrepressible tissue growths are called tumors or malignant tumors. However, not all tumors are cancerous.

Breast cancer has been diagnosed in large numbers in North America and Europe. In 2001, about 200,000 cases of breast cancer were diagnosed in the United States alone. 1 in 8 women has a risk of developing breast cancer, but the risk of dying from breast cancer is much lower, barely 1 in 28. But when that 1 is your friend or family, it hits very close to home.

These are some of the higher risks for breast cancer:

• A higher risk among older women
• Women with a family history
• Women with a previous history of breast cancer
• Women who had radiation therapy in the chest region
• Women who started their periods before 12 years old
• Women who had menopause after 50 years old
• Women who never had children
• Women who had children after age 30
• Women with genetic mutation (In recent times genetic mutations for breast cancer have become a hot topic of research.)

The breast cancer tumor has the following symptoms:

• Lump or thickening that appears on the breast or underarm
• Changes in the breast’s shape
• Nipple turned inwards followed by colorless discharge
• Red or scaled skin or nipple
• Ridges on the breast skin.

If a woman experiences any of these symptoms, it does not necessarily mean she has breast cancer. In such a case she should undergo a breast cancer personal check-up. It is estimated that 95% of breast cancer is detected through personal check-up. The breast cancer personal check-up includes checking for lumps in the breasts after each menstrual period, puckering the skin, and checking for nipple retraction or discharge. For consistent result, every woman should do a breast cancer personal check-up at the same time every month. Various other techniques such as mammography, thermography, ultrasonography, computerized tomography scan etc, can also help detect breast cancer.

Breast cancer treatments include surgery that removes cancerous tissues, with breast conservation therapy (BCT) being one such surgery. Other breast cancer treatments include chemotherapy, radiotherapy, hormonal therapy and biologic therapy. Radiotherapy is a common breast cancer treatment, and radiation treatment and chemotherapy may follow surgery to ensure the destruction of the stray cancer cells.

Even after undergoing many or all of these breast cancer treatment measures, unfortunately almost half the women suffer from a recurrence of the disease.

The Breast Cancer Research Foundation – Helping Them Help Others

During the month of October, 2011, we are holding a fundraising event to raise money for The Breast Cancer Research Foundation. For more information and to enter, please visit http://www.jonravencontest.com. We want you to send up a photo that shows your beauty – and breast cancer survivors are definitely encouraged to enter. We have great prizes and are looking forward to raising money for a great cause. If you would like to share your story as a breast cancer survivor or the friend of family of a survivor – please contact nikki@nikkileigh.com – let’s use this opportunity to help people learn more about this disease and how to handle it if they face it in the future.

Women cheaters are rapidly catching up to men because they are more independent than ever before, both economically and sexually. With more female breadwinners, it’s no wonder they feel entitled to get their share of sex and are taking responsibility for their own pleasure. Women are less inhibited about asking for what they want and not being afraid to cheat if they don’t get their needs met.  For women, communication is the most important ingredient in their relationship, so when the communication lines are closed, they retaliate by using their sexual assets.

The media has finally acknowledged female cheating on popular TV shows like ABC’s Desperate Housewives, so just because the little wife is seemingly disinterested in sex, don’t be surprised when you find out that she has been doing it with the pool boy and the gardener.

TOP 10 SIGNS YOUR WOMAN IS CHEATING

She slacks off from doing household chores like the laundry, cooking family meals, or spends less time with the kids so she can spend more time with her lover.

1. She will be distracted when you are talking to her because she is daydreaming about her lover.
2. She will be less affectionate, spends extra time in the bathroom bathing and doing her hair and makeup for last minute events that do not include you.
3. She buys her own sexy lingerie.
4. She goes on a diet and joins a gym without telling you.
5. She wears more revealing clothes before she leaves the house.
6. She puts on more perfume than usual.
7. She starts criticizing you and comparing you to other men.
8. She isn’t interested in going away for a romantic vacation with you.
9. She leaves the room when she answers her cell phone.

If you would like to keep your woman from wanting or feeling the need to cheat — here are some tips to show you what she wants.

• Give unexpected massages, hair stroking or other physical affection
• Only if sincere, tell her how much she means to you during lovemaking
• Compliment her with “just because” notes or phone calls
• Plan romantic evenings that will fill her with anticipation of what is to come
• Lavish her with oral sex and let her climax first
• Share romantic feelings
• Experiment with role-playing

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If you want to learn why people cheat, how to know if your partner is cheating or if you want a plethora of ways to improve your relationship, get The Loveologist Guide to Understanding Cheating by Dr Ava Cadell http://understandingcheating.com

If you are concerned about your relationship and would like to speak with a love and relationship coach or a master sexpert – feel free to contact me at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com.