The 12 Stepping Stones

I took the Loveologist curriculum of courses from Dr Ava at Loveology University. There is so much incredible information that it was overwhelming at times – but I put together a plan. She offers a course called the Master Sexpert course and the Love Coach Certification course.

So, here are the topics in the Master Sexpert course – I finished the Certified Romantic courses first and then moved on to the Master Sexpert courses, which include:

• Anal Pleasure
• Erotic Talk
• Erotic Massage
• Foreplay
• G-Spot
• Kissing
• Oral Sex
• Orgasm
• Pleasing a Man
• Pleasing a Woman
• Power Play
• Sex Fantasies
• Sex Positions
• Sex Taboos
• Sex Toys

The first certificate that I earned was for the Anal Pleasure course. If you would like to see more details about what I’m doing – visit

Course Catalog – https://www.loveologyuniversity.com/CourseCatalogue.aspx

Loveology University Homepage – https://www.loveologyuniversity.com/

These are some of the topics in this course -

• Anal for Women

• Anal for Men

• Anal Taboo

• Orgasm

• Spanking

• Cleansing & Douching

• Masturbation

• Anal Massage  & Fingering

• Toys & Butt Plugs

• Lubrication

• Prostate Massage

Anal Pleasure

This Course Is For You If:  You want to Approach Your Lover for the First Time About Having Anal Sex You want to Learn The Art of Anal Massage You want to Discover the Best Anal Sex Positions You want to  Know How to Enhance Anal Sex with Toys Welcome to Loveology University’s Anal Pleasure Certification Course. Here you will learn why anal pleasure is still taboo in some places, even though research shows it has been around and enjoyed since ancient Roman times. The do’s and don’ts of anal sex are spelled out for you in the name of safety. You’ll want to know the best positions for anal pleasuring and guidelines on STD’s you can catch from unsafe anal sex. How to approach your partner for the first time about anal sex can be tricky, but with these tips it will be a cinch. If you haven’t experienced an anal orgasm, you’ll find out how you can in this course. With all the various lubes and toys there is no reason why you can’t enjoy anal sex and experience mind-blowing orgasms with someone who also appreciates the erotica of back door sex.  Course Price: $49.95

http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=45

For a sneak peek into some of the information in the kissing course from Loveology University – watch Dr Ava on The Doctors in this video clip

http://www.thedoctorstv.com/main/home_page?init_type=Feature&init_id=3242?

Here are some details from the Kissing Course – (in California you can earn CEUs with this course)

• What Kissing Is
• Kinds of Kisses
• History of Kissing
• Myths of Kissing
• Preparing for the Kiss
• The Art of Kissing
• Kissing Rules
• What Can be Kissed
• Kissing Targets
• G-Love
• Where to Sneak a Kiss
• Kissing – How To
• Tantra Kisses
• Kissing Positions
• Kissing All Five Senses
• Kissing Boundaries
• Healing Kisses
• Kissing Fears
• Kiss-ercise
• Kissing Games
• Kissing Concerns
• Orgasmic Kissing
• Kissing with Piercing
• The Hickey Kiss
• Kissing Crimes
• Kissing the Genitals

and more……

These are some of the things covered in the course — and the homework is wonderful

This Course Is For You If:

• You want to Learn the Art of Tantric Kissing
• You want to Discover What Can and Should be Kissed
• You want to Become Skilled at Kissing Positions
• You want to Know the Secret to Orgasmic Kissing

Men need to understand that knowing the techniques to please a woman can be a very rewarding experience. Understanding the ways to truly and deeply please a woman – will give you a sense of power. It makes you the ideal partner. It makes you the only man she will want. It makes her ask you for sex – would you enjoy that? Then, read on.

Truly pleasing intimacy and sex involve being aware and being able to know what a woman wants and desires. This is not a tip sheet just to get a woman into bed – it goes deeper than that. This is instruction to enable you to please a woman on a deeper level and to build a lasting bond between you.

There are three characteristics a man needs to please a woman:

• She needs a father figure – he will care, protect and support her when she needs his support
• She needs a lover – he will appreciate, desire and respect her, and make passionate love to her
• She needs a mischievous little boy – be fun, playful and unpredictable, keep things interesting

There are times when your woman wants you to take control. She knows you want sex – but show that you want and desire her. Show that you want to please her. She wants you to help her feel confident sexually – it is always great to encourage her to take the lead in your sexual activities. When she shows initiative and instigates sex – encourage her, but let her maintain control. Otherwise, you can discourage her from taking the lead in the future.  When she shows the initiative, let her know that you are ready, willing and able to participate and to please her.

Keep your lovemaking, fun, unpredictable and enjoyable. There are times when you both need to have fun and to laugh. You never want to laugh at a lover, but have fun and laugh with your lover. This is one area where that mischievous little boy is needed. Let the fun loving little girl in your woman come through.  Laughter is a key to a lasting and satisfying relationship.

This can be very beneficial for parents who are preoccupied with home, work and children. When your children are asleep or out of the house, close the door and be totally submerged in time for you and your woman – not the dutiful mother, but the fun, sensual woman you want to please.

There are many more tips to pleasing a woman – including the ways to please a woman, the benefits of pleasing a woman and individual techniques to please her emotionally, mentally, physically and sexually. For more detail, check the How to Please a Woman home study course from Loveology University – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=35&a_aid=litekepr

Are you one of the people who loves feet? Or, are you one of those people who just cannot understand what could possibly be sexual about your lover’s feet? Let’s talk about foot fetish and see if you may want to pay extra attention to your lover’s feet.

Why wouldn’t we think a lot of our feet and give them extra attention. Our feet serve very real purposes – like giving the body a foundation and carry and support our bodies. But we often forget or ignore our feet. However, most people love a foot massage and there any many foot creams on the market to make our tired, hot, weary feet feel better.

What is a fetish – Webster’s Dictionary says: “Fetish is an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion, an object or bodily part whose real or fantasized presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression.” So, a true foot fetish means the person has an inability to be aroused without the presence or fantasy of a foot.

There are various degrees of fetish – they include:

Optional – The fetish is part of a person’s sexual repertoire and an alternative to more conventional fantasies and behaviors but is not necessary or favored for sexual gratification. (For example – The man massages his partner’s feet, eroticizes them with adoration and loving kisses then moves up her calves to her inner thighs and vulva with the same sensual caressing.)

Preferred – Being in active fetishism is better for the individual than not. (For example – When presented with a sexy foot and a sexy woman, he wants the foot but will engage with both.)

Exclusive – In order for the individual to become aroused the object of desire must be incorporated through fantasy and or reality. (For example – To get hard, to come or experience any sexual arousal, he has to have access to feet be it tangible or fantastical.)

So, if you enjoy having your feet massaged and kissed – you may have an “optional fetish”.

The common theory about how a foot fetish begins is that, when a child – usually a boy – crawls around and views his mother’s feet. He may even reach out to touch or play with her feet, maybe trying to suck her toes. It may be that we are predisposed to feeling erotically about feet because they have apocrine sweat glands. These are a type of pheromone producing sweat gland like the ones in our armpits and in our genital areas.

Feet are a part of our body that has sensitive areas – so its natural that we enjoy paying attention to our lover’s feet or having them lavish attention on our feet.

However – if you are more serious about foot play in your love making, then you will likely enjoy some specific actions. Foot fetishists enjoy kissing, sniffing, licking, and caressing their partner’s feet before, during or after sex. Some might like their partners to jerk them off or penetrate them with their feet.

Some other activities include:

• Rubbing
• Sniffing
• Touching
• Tickling
• Kissing
• Licking
• Torturing
• Caressing
• Massaging
• Pampering
• Pedicuring
• Worshipping
• Sucking
• Cleaning
• Soaking

Check back for step by step instructions on how to thrill your partner – through their feet.

For much more information and for an online course about foot fetish, visit – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=58&a_aid=litekepr

There is much that is said about pornography, both positive and negative – mainly depending on who you talk to and their perspective. This post will not draw conclusions, just point out some elements that influence our opinions…

Where do many people get their perspective on porn? The most common places are:

• Classmates/peers or Friends
• Mother, Father or Siblings
• Mentors, Teachers, Coaches or Counselors
• Clergy or your religion
• Media or TV
• Uncles, Aunts or Other relatives

Anyone that you spend time with could be where you got your perspective about porn, whether it’s good or bad. That is especially true with most religious clergy. Family members and friends can have an interesting impact on our thoughts and people who have a supervisory relationship with us can definitely change or form our opinions – like teachers, coaches or mentors.

Where did you learn about porn?

• High school and/or college locker room
• A friend’s house
• Corner drug store that sells a wide variety of magazines
• A video store that carries adult movies
• Online – through porn sites, ads, emails, forums, etc
• You may have heard in a family discussion
• Your parents or another relative may have a collection
• Older sibling – usually an older brother
• Cable or pay TV options

Centuries ago – fine art often included nude men and women. If you look really close, they are often doing a variety of things, of course, that depends on where you see the art. But its still interesting that in other countries, there is fine art, statues, and other respected pieces of art which feature nude bodies.

However, nude or nearly nude bodies in movies and pictures are viewed as being bad in the United States. That often depends on the type of people you are around. Its funny, I watch a lot of BBC drama series and its been interesting to see the vast difference in the story lines and how those stories are brought to the screen. Topics and other things that would be unaccepted in the US, are included in these series — including sexual topics, partial nudity and more. Not as graphic as porn by any means – but more graphic than you would expect to see in your typical prime time drama here.

I talked to a friend who worked in a video store that rented and sold porn and from what they told me, there was a wide variety of people who rented and bought movies. There were men, women, single and married people, some were very religious and they usually wandered around the store until the other people left. But they still rented porn on a regular basis. So – porn can be viewed by both genders, various relationship statuses, various religious viewpoints and many other variables.

Pornography or Erotica

Here is an interesting definition of erotica – Erotica has an interactive definition in that its meaning directly relates with who makes the classification. To be delineated as erotic it must be by the viewer’s standards an acceptable depiction of the acts of love and sex. So, the distinction is subjective and depends on the viewer.

Erotica is very popular with many women – along with movies and books that could easily be called soft porn and are often “unrated” or some movies have an “R” rating or an “UR” rating allowing people to decide which to watch. This can include novels, short stories, movies with erotic content (often Unrated) and sometimes soap operas push the limits – although the sheets are placed strategically. On the other hand, if a man read or watched the same thing, would many people automatically classify it as porn? I’ve got news for you – women watch porn and they have been watching it for a long time.

In recent years, there have been porn movies that are geared to women – and these can be just as graphic as the movies that men enjoy. But you will often see some differences. If you would like details about that – you should read Porn by Erika Lust. It’s a great book about women and porn – it also gives a great history of porn that many men would enjoy. My review is posted here http://lovecoachjourney.com/2010/07/30/adult-movies-designed-to-appeal-to-women/

So – how do you personally draw the line between erotica and porn? How do you feel about these movies or the books and how did you develop that viewpoint?

We’ll discuss more about pornography in future posts. If you would like to check into an online course that delves into the history or porn, details about porn, ways to use porn to spice up your love life and much more, check http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=53&a_aid=litekepr

It seems that many men are fascinated with group sex, in particular, sex with two or more women at a time. I have noticed they aren’t as interested in sex with a man and a woman – sometimes they are – just not as often and some men say emphatically, no to sex with another man in the room.

Technically group sex includes sex with 3, 4, 5, or more people. There are more mouths, more hands, more arms, more legs – but there is also more need to communicate, more need to for coordination, more feelings, more baggage…. Not to bring you down, but there are many things to consider about group sex.

Let’s start at the beginning, these are some of the reasons to add another person or more people:

• To get more attention
• The opportunity to show off your skills
• Experiment with bisexuality
• Simply for some variety
• As a way to get variety without the need to lie or cheat
• Because you’re curious
• Be a voyeur and watch someone please your partner
• The chance to learn new skills
• Get past the usual social programming
• Explore and learn more about yourself
• Experiment with new sexual activities
• Learn new ways to love and please your partner
• Live out a fantasy

Society, friends, family, religion and other outside forces may say group sex is wrong, but honestly, if you’re an adult, every one is a consenting adult and no one gets hurt, you can do what you want.

One of the biggest issues I’ve noticed when talking to people about group sex – is their fear. This can be jealousy, insecurity for a variety of reasons, feel that its wrong, uncomfortable because it pushes their personal sexual boundaries.

No matter how great the fantasy, you need to have an honest conversation with your partner before you approach someone about joining you. Neither person should ever agree just to please the other – any sexual act you participate in, should be done because you want to do it. Threesomes and group sex definitely fall into that category.

A relationship can be ruined for many reasons, but group sex can definitely be a contributing factor. Here is a scenario – a couple had talked since the time they dated about having another woman have sex with them. The man wanted to be with two women and to watch them together. The woman was bi-curious and wanted to be with a woman and it was less pressure to do it with her husband. They finally found a woman and asked her to spend the night with them. The husband and wife were both friends with the other woman and she didn’t know it, but the wife had a crush on her.

So, they felt they discussed all the important things before hand and they got together several times to test the physical boundaries and everything seemed fine. Then the night came and the eventually went to the bedroom. They were a little awkward at first, but everyone loosened up and there was plenty of kissing, fondling, hands and mouths roaming from person to person, things seemed to be going fine.

The husband and wife had intercourse and the wife clearly wanted to leave the other woman out. So, she stayed to the side. The wife got up and left the room a little later. When she returned, the husband had his arm around the other woman, talking to her. Nothing sexual was going on, although they were nude, but the wife abruptly decided it was time for everyone to get out of bed.

The three of them were together one more time after that. Shortly, each of the relationships deteriorated, and the couple eventually divorced. This couple had talked about a threesome for years, but still weren’t ready for the emotional repercussions.

These are a few of the negative reasons to participate in a threesome – are any of these the reason why you would be in a threesome? If so, you really should reconsider.

• Win back a partner
• Please a partner
• Hurt a partner
• Fear of intimacy
• Fear of commitment
• Want the rush of being in a new relationship

So – if you are one of the men or women who fantasizes about being in a threesome, or foursome or any other configuration of group sex, why do you want to have sex with multiple people at once and what would you do to prepare yourself and your partner? Or, would you be the other man or other woman in the scenario? If you would be joining a couple, what should you do before agreeing to join in?

If you would like to learn much more about group sex, check back for more articles or you can simply enter your email in the top right corner to subscribe to my blog. You can also check out the Group Sex course at Loveology University – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=62&a_aid=litekepr

We hear terms like polyamory, polygamy, open relationships and many other phrases, but do you really understand what they are and the differences? First, to clea up some misconceptions. Cheating, swinging and polygamy are all different from polyamory – these are defined below.

• Cheating (blatant withholding of sexual emotional involvement with others)
• Swinging (purely recreational sex without an emotional sharing/connection)
• Polygamy (legal, religious and economic prescriptions for multiple partner marriage)

What is polyamory? Here are a few simple descriptions…

• Responsible/ethical/honest non-monogamy
• A deep, emotional, sometimes physical relationship with more than one partner simultaneously
• Having multiple concurrent loving relationships with the full informed, consent of all parties.
• Loving more than one person at the same time, with or without sexual engagement

Did you notice a couple of themes? First and foremost, be open, honest and communicate with the people involved. In a polyamorous relationship, each partner knows about the other partners. If you are going to spend the evening with another person, you tell your partner. There is also real love and caring for the additional people that come into your relationship.

Here are some interesting demographics and details about the average person who is in a polyamorous relationship. These details do not describe all polyamory participants, but will give you some insights.

• Well Educated – Most have college or graduate degrees
• Middle Class Professionals
• Independent Idealists
• Frustrated by the rigidity of monogamy
• Swingers who want to build sustained intimacy and community
• A plural family contains multiple adults who are emotionally, socially and usually sexually connected to each other.

How Do You Get Started

The very first thing to do is to sit down with your partner and have that honest and open discussion as mentioned above. Each couple must discuss their own rules and boundaries for a polyamorous arrangement. The same rules will not work for every couple – and it is critical that you decide what is allowed, what is not allowed, and much more. Discuss why you want to make this change in your relationship and be very clear with one another about what you want and need.  The more honest you are in the beginning, the more problems you can avoid over time. Also – if your feelings and thoughts change, you need to sit down with your partner and discuss these things.

Benefits of Poly Relationships

These are some of the benefits – feel free to share any that you feel should be included.

• Variety – Let’s be honest, for many people, the sexual variety is a big appeal of a poly relationship. But there will also be many other types of variety as you meet and experience new people.
• Best of Both Worlds – You can have a stable loving relationship at home, and also enjoy variety and new experiences. So, you can see if the grass really is greener on the other side of the fence.
• Develop and Expand Your Individuality – Have you noticed how some couples in long term monogamous relationships tend to be in a couples mentality and have limited individual interests and activities? This is not true of all monogamous relationships, but polyamory gives you the opportunity to share and develop other interests, with or without your partner.
• Discover New Things About Your Partner – This is just like the way you will learn new things about yourself. As your partner develops new relationships, you will likely learn new things about them too.
• Expand Your Support Network – How much you share will depend on the relationship between the people involved in your relationships
• Gain a Better Understanding of Yourself – Have you noticed how you learn new things about yourself through various friendships? Multiple intimate relationships can help you learn different things about yourself, what you like, what you don’t like, how you feel, what you have to share, what you need and much more.
• Limit Insecurities and Co-Dependency – You need to deal with and eliminate any insecurities before beginning a polyamorous lifestyle. Once you invite other people into your relationship, co-dependency should be diminished between you and your partner. It can be like “airing out” your relationships.
• Satisfaction on Greater Levels – It is very hard, if not impossible, to find one person that fills all of our needs. This option gives you the opportunity to get satisfaction on higher levels and a wider variety of satisfaction through different partners.
• Share Interests and Activities with a Wider Circle of People – We all have a variety of people that we enjoy different activities with – that is true here too.

Definitions of Some Options

Definition of an Open Marriage - Open Marriage is a general term that refers to monogamously married couples who have an agreement to incorporate extra-marital erotic and possibly emotional activities. These couples can have “don’t ask don’t tell” agreements, engage in group sex together, or anything in between.

Definition of Swinging - Swinging refers to social sexuality.  Here monogamously married couples engage in erotic activities that often include sexual intercourse for recreational purposes.  They consider these activities to be “play.”  Here they endeavor to not generate emotional connections, but rather to simply have sex for the pleasure of sex. Some swingers do generate long-term social connections with each other, but are careful to not develop outside pair bonded love connections.

Define the Difference Between Polyamory and Polygamy

Polyamory is practiced in the Western World (especially US, Canada, Europe, Israel and Australia).  One of their reasons for practicing it may center on actualizing more of who they are by engaging a variety of distinct partners. Both males and females can have multiple partners and bisexuality is common. Polyamory is practiced for a combination of personal and ideological reasons.

Polygamy is typically practiced for religious and/or economic reasons.  While polyamorous women often view themselves as independent and liberated, women in polygynous marriages may be very dependent on the resources of a wealthy and much older husband. Mormon Polygamy only allows multiple partners for the male head of households. Mormon Polygamy is practiced for religious reasons.

Loveology University Polyamory Certification Course

This Course Is For You If:

• You want to Love More than One Person at the Same Time
• You want to Learn About the Difference Between Polyamory and Polygamy
• You want to Know About the Impact Polyamory has on a Relationship
• You are Interested in Polyamory Research and Data

Welcome to Loveology University’s Polyamory course. Polyamory means “loving more than one”.  In this course you will learn about the various kinds of Polyamory from a couple considering each other to be their “main squeeze,” to having multiple partners. You will discover the difference between Polyamory and Polygamy and what kinds of people practice them. There is plenty of research and statistics to back up all of the information in this course. You can decide if the Polyamory lifestyle is for you or if it is something that you want to share with someone simply to expand your sexual horizons.

http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=59&a_aid=litekepr

Hercules, the Pleasure Coach (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Los-Angeles-CA/The-Pleasure-Coach/214880930955) shared this article on Facebook and I had to share it here -

The Yoni Massage

Information in General

The method given here for Vagina Massage is the ancient Indian way of massaging the vagina called as Yoni (pronounced as YO-NEE) in Sanskrit. Also consider as “Sacred Space” or “Sacred Temple. In Tantra sex ritual, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect. As a tradition to give respect to women

The aim of the vagina/Yoni Massage is to create a space for the woman (the receiver) to relax, and enter a state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. This massage is also a way to treat a woman from sexual blocks, traumas or from fear of sex. Her partner (the giver) enjoy a new experience of being of service and witnessing a very different arena of Tantra sex. The Yoni Massage can also be used as a form of safer sex by wearing some gloves in hand and is an excellent activity to build trust and intimacy .

The aim of the Yoni massage is not orgasm is not to bring a climax. Orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome by product of the entire ritual. The aim is simply to pleasure and massage the Yoni/vagina. From this perspective both receiver and giver can relax, and not have to worry about achieving something. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Orgasm is allowed to happen or not happen depending on your way of doing which you learn by experience.

In this massage the giver has nothing to gain, he is just at the donors end, just allowing the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into herself afterwards. Of course, other sexual activity may follow but it should be entirely the receiver’s choice. This perspective will build greater intimacy and trust, and will greatly broaden your sexual horizons.

STARTING THE PROCESS

Taking a shower is always helpful as it relaxes both the receiver and giver. A quiet space is desirable with pleasing music, red colored candles, pillows, etc., or whatever makes the participants relax and feel safe. Allow yourself enough time and do not hurry through the process. It is also recommended if you have soft silk mattresses, and white curtains, with a dim red light.

Go to the bathroom before beginning the massage. The best results will occur when the bowels and bladder are empty and you will avoid the unnecessary experience of interrupting the massage to go to the bathroom. Keep the genitals clean washed carefully with a soft soap. And the giver has to be careful that his nails has to be properly trimmed.

Cuddle with your partner by hugging, holding, eye gazing (looking into each other’s eyes for an extended time), or whatever brings you to a place of safety and relaxation.

RITUAL

Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner (giver). Place a pillow, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals clearly exposed for the massage. It is necessary that the vagina has to be clean shaved, but there should not be too long hairs.

The giver sits cross-legged between the receivers’ legs. The giver may wish to sit on a pillow or cushion. This position allows full access to the Yoni and other parts of the body.

Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver should remember to keep breathing deeply, slowly and with relaxation during the entire process. The giver will gently remind the receiver to start breathing again if the receiver stops or takes shallower breaths. Deep breathing, not hyperventilating, is very important here. Do not try to control the breath or take very long pauses between breaths.

Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to get the receiver to relax and for the giver to prepare for touching the Yoni.

Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant on the mound of the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni. Even you can use some good cream also, but oils are the best lubricator.

Begin gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend some time here and do not rush. Relax and enjoy giving the massage. Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the same thing to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your time.

The receiver can massage her own breasts or may just relax and continue breathing deeply. It is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each other’s eyes as much as possible. The receiver can tell the giver if the pressure, speed, depth, etc., needs to be increased or decreased. Limit your speaking and focus on the pleasurable sensations. (It is my experience that too much talking gets one out of their feelings and diminishes the effects.)

Gently stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Do this as a massage and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly become very aroused but continue to encourage her to just relax and breathe.

Slowly and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni In rituals and Tantra sex there is a specific reason of using the right hand, as it has to do with the polarity in Tantra. Very gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni/ vagina with this finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up, down and sideways. Vary the depth, speed and pressure. Remember, this is a massage and you’re nurturing and relaxing the Yoni.

With your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middle finger in a “come here” gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind the clitoris. This is the Sacred spot as says Tantra Sex. Your partner may feel as if they have to urinate or it may be painful or pleasurable. Again vary the pressure, speed and pattern of the movement. You can move side to side, back and forth, or in circles with your middle finger You can also insert the finger that’s between your middle finger and pinky. Check with your partner first before sticking two fingers into them. Most women should have no problem and will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time and be very gentle. You may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well.

This is just an optional part; some women do not like this, just take permission from your partner and then insert your one finger by using some lubrication into her anus. Use the finger which you are not going to insert her Yoni. And be very gentle. The ritual prefers to use the little finger in her anus.

Your left which has nothing to do at this time can be used to massage the breasts, abdomen, or clitoris if you massage the clitoris it’s usually best to use your thumb in an up down motion, with the rest of your hand resting on and massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right and left hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. I do not recommend using your left hand to touch your own genitals because it may take your focus off the receiver. Remember, this massage is for her pleasure and much of the benefit comes from not only the physical stimulation but the intent as well.

Continue massaging, trying different speeds, pressures and motions. Keep breathing and looking into each other’s eyes. The receiver may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just keep deep breathing and be gentle. Many women have been sexually abused and need to be healed. A giving, loving and patient partner can be of great value to her.

If she has an orgasm, keep her deep breathing, and continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called “riding the wave.” Many women can learn how to be multi-orgasmic with the Yoni Massage and a very patient partner.

Keep massaging until she tells you to stop. Very slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. Allow her to just lay there and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as well. As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your sex life will be greatly enriched and you will learn a great deal about feminine sexuality.

http://www.occultmystery.com/vm.htm

I have taken a lot of courses through Loveology University – but one of my favorite was on Intimacy in your relationship. One reason is because having true intimacy in your relationship really does take you and your partner to a whole different level of closeness. Another reason is because so few couples seem to have real intimacy – I’m not talking about just having sex – intimacy is much more than that.

These are a couple of the reasons why I really enjoyed the course on Couples Enrichment. It includes information about the foundation and cornerstones of a great and lasting relationship. These include:

Topics to Lay the Foundation For Your Relationship

• Communication
• Kissing
• Love

Topics As the Relationship Deepens

• Seduction
• Intimacy
• Erotic Massage
• Sexual Fantasies
• Erotic Talk
• Pleasing a Man
• Pleasing a Woman
• Oral Sex
• Sexual Positions
• Tantric Sex
• Orgasm

Each of these are topics that will deepen and strengthen your relationship and contribute to the level of true intimacy and satisfaction for you and your partner.

What Enrichment Means -

• An improvement in communication, intimacy and sexuality.
• It has all the ingredients of true love; friendship, respect, trust, communication and passion

The Key Ingredients to a Deeper and More Loving Relationship

• Friendship
• Respect
• Trust
• Communication
• Passion
• Foregiveness

One exercise in this course includes these 3 questions. How would you answer these questions?

1. List 3 strengths in your relationships
2. List 3 weaknesses in your relationships
3. What can you do to be more in love with one another?

There are many short exercises which give you and your partner the opportunity to look deeper into your relationship and find ways to be closer. Many couples will never have the kind of true intimacy that will elevate their relationship to a much higher and more satisfying level. It does take effort, but isn’t your most important relationship worth the effort? This is a very small sample of the information contained in this course. This course is great for new relationships and it is also great for long term relationships that need a boost. Would you like to get that initial passion and closeness back that you and your partner had in the beginning? This course is for you

For more information, visit http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=37

Loveology University also offers individual courses on each of the topics in this course – in much more detail. The complete list of courses, including the Certified Romantic course is located here – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/CourseCatalogue.aspx

This Course Is For You If:

• You want to Re-ignite the Hot Passion in Your Relationship
• You want to Win the Undying Love and Devotion of Your Partner
• You want to Make Love Longer Than You Ever Believed Possible
• You want to Discover the Rewards of Intimacy with Sex

For more information, visit http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=37