The 12 Stepping Stones

I took the Loveologist curriculum of courses from Dr Ava at Loveology University. There is so much incredible information that it was overwhelming at times – but I put together a plan. She offers a course called the Master Sexpert course and the Love Coach Certification course.

So, here are the topics in the Master Sexpert course – I finished the Certified Romantic courses first and then moved on to the Master Sexpert courses, which include:

• Anal Pleasure
• Erotic Talk
• Erotic Massage
• Foreplay
• G-Spot
• Kissing
• Oral Sex
• Orgasm
• Pleasing a Man
• Pleasing a Woman
• Power Play
• Sex Fantasies
• Sex Positions
• Sex Taboos
• Sex Toys

The first certificate that I earned was for the Anal Pleasure course. If you would like to see more details about what I’m doing – visit

Course Catalog – https://www.loveologyuniversity.com/CourseCatalogue.aspx

Loveology University Homepage – https://www.loveologyuniversity.com/

These are some of the topics in this course -

• Anal for Women

• Anal for Men

• Anal Taboo

• Orgasm

• Spanking

• Cleansing & Douching

• Masturbation

• Anal Massage  & Fingering

• Toys & Butt Plugs

• Lubrication

• Prostate Massage

Anal Pleasure

This Course Is For You If:  You want to Approach Your Lover for the First Time About Having Anal Sex You want to Learn The Art of Anal Massage You want to Discover the Best Anal Sex Positions You want to  Know How to Enhance Anal Sex with Toys Welcome to Loveology University’s Anal Pleasure Certification Course. Here you will learn why anal pleasure is still taboo in some places, even though research shows it has been around and enjoyed since ancient Roman times. The do’s and don’ts of anal sex are spelled out for you in the name of safety. You’ll want to know the best positions for anal pleasuring and guidelines on STD’s you can catch from unsafe anal sex. How to approach your partner for the first time about anal sex can be tricky, but with these tips it will be a cinch. If you haven’t experienced an anal orgasm, you’ll find out how you can in this course. With all the various lubes and toys there is no reason why you can’t enjoy anal sex and experience mind-blowing orgasms with someone who also appreciates the erotica of back door sex.  Course Price: $49.95

http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=45

You can benefit by developing a healthy self-love. Learning to love yourself helps you develop self-esteem, self-respect and confidence. These traits enable you to find and enjoy a healthy, happy and satisfying love. Loving yourself can also lead to a very satisfying love life. To learn more about how to Make it Happen! Discover More Love and Passion, click here. Tune in to help yourself, whether you’re single and looking for love or if you’d like to make an existing relationship even better.

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I’d like to introduce you to Courtney – she completed her Love Coach training around the time I did and she’d like to share some information with you about her work.

Would you like to share your name? Sure, Courtney Calvert

What prompted you to learn more to become a Love Coach or a Sexpert? Several years as a consultant for a party planning company I was taking college courses in human sexuality, anatomy…after venturing out on my own, I wanted to continue my education but found that start fees and being on my own was expensive so I started looking for an alternative and found LU. Seemed perfect to get certified! I have found that people respond to it better too.

What is your title? Love Coach – Sexpert – Party Planner – etc – Love Coach

In a few sentences, how do you describe what you do? I am a facilitator for individuals and couples to have a non-judgmental, open minded person to open up to what may be holding them back from being the best lover they can be. Together we find healthy positive outlets and solutions to have a happy, healthy and fulfilling Love Life with themselves and whomever they wish to share it with.

How long have you worked in this industry? 6 years

Speaking of the industry – how do you classify the industry or business that you work in? Sexual Health & Education

If you have a main focus or niche – what is it? I mainly focus on Sex & Disability, Intimacy thru Chemo, HIV/AIDS, and the LGBTQQ communities. Having gone through some of these, and watched/helped friends through others, it’s like the saying goes…Find a need, fill a need!

What led you to that specialty? I always knew I would be in a field of or about sex! Mainly, I wanted to work with Gay and Questioning persons, only because I come from that same background. The struggles with one’s self and then the awkwardness of what to do when in a same sex situation, you are not taught these things, and in my case, it was not something you admitted EVER. Same sex couples had the process of what sex could be, was something you saw on TV, Movies and your friends talked about…not so much in the homosexual field and not where I grew up. When I got older, I knew where my sexuality stood firmly and I don’t bend from it and hope I can help others see the light at the end of the dark and lonely tunnel sometimes.

The other came when we were forced to learn how to keep our 16 year marriage together after major medical issues and keeping our intimacy strong during 3 rounds of Cancer and 2 rounds of Chemo/Radiation. Not easy! My husband is a saint, bless his heart!

Being sick, and helping where I could during my well times as a payback, brought me face to face with a young gentleman who had HIV. He had just been diagnosed and I stood outside with him and talked for hours. I was only 23 then, and I don’t know where he is now…but I started learning and eventually came to understand a very hard to grasp illness. As I grow with my education and my directions with my personal coaching, I wanted to include HIV/AIDS as my certification. (AUGUST)

What has been the hardest thing about your work? It has to be watching the struggle within themselves, their own minds or choosing to step out of their box. There is only so much guidance you can give, it can’t be forced. They have to find their voice and either say NO WAY, or Sure, but help me.

What has been the easiest thing about your work? Just being able too! Have the comfort level to talk with others, and to have them feel comfortable to release their deeper self to me, a complete stranger.

What has been the most rewarding thing about your work? The letters/calls I get after….

What education do you have to do this sort of work? I have to say that my AAS in business management comes in handy at times…but truthfully 6 years as a party planner, and working with clients situations. I also became certified as a Master Sexpert (course offered through party company) ~certified with GVU in a 6 week training course. ~Certified with LU in Lovelogy ~ Certified HIV/AIDS (education & Blood Borne Pathogens Training)

What additional training did you feel that you needed to do more for your clients? I am a student of life, I will be continuing on into certification in Life Coaching, as well as attending classes, workshop and conference in my main field of practice. I do eventually want to go back to college and get my Master as a Sexologist so that I can work in a larger scale toward a better view of sex and creating a sex positive culture. (First I have to get my teenage son through high school and help him with college, then my turn)

Tell us about your business. I live in Seattle and use my skills with my own Company, Barely Innocent, offering education to my consultants, working with Clients at parties & privately in consult, by phone or in person as well as offering workshops online, in person or by teleconference. I just completed my Love Coach Program and plan on expanding into my own private practice in the coming months.

How long have you been in business? BIN has been in business for about 3 years.

Did you expand an existing business to include love and relationship coaching? Recently, yes and will be continuing too in the future. Which will include my own site (store with expanded selection of EVERYTHING)

Do you have a website and/or blog?

Barely Innocent (www.barelyinnocent.net) (http://barelyinnocent.net/blog)

Courtney (www.courtneycalvert.com)

Blog coming soon (http://courtneycalvert.com/blog/)

How could someone get in touch with you? Face book (Courtney Calvert) MSN Messenger (leave a note or I deny) barelyinnocent@msn.com or Courtney@courtneycalvert.com

Who are your favorite types of client? This may sound weird, but the VANILLA ones…they get so timid and scared when you work on anything…to watch them transform from someone who can’t make eye contact to full confidence…AMAZING!

Would you like to share your most unusual experience? Some of the observation trips I take…I write and often get granted permission to the amazing opportunity to view “activities”. It is all for education purposes, and I truly get educated at some of these events. I choose my groups based off of clients situations I may not be fully familiar with or have engaged in. Sometimes reference books and sites are not enough. So I go to workshops or clinics in Washington State to observe and ask questions (when appropriate) if I do not understand a technique etc.

How do you promote your business? Word of Mouth, Online Social Media forums, and just about everywhere I go, I slip it into conversations (where appropriate) and watch reactions. I do some print, some flyers. But mostly I hope I made someone enjoy our time enough to Yelp it (now that one is up) or perhaps pass a link when I post it up on a board.

Have you written any books or developed any products specifically for your clients? Nope, not yet!

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We hope that you enjoyed the interview this week. If you are “sex positive” and work to help other people to become more “sex positive” – feel free to contact me about participating in this interview series. We want plenty of diversity in the participants, so drop me a note at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com and we can talk. If you would like to find out more about love and relationship coaching – feel free to download my ebook Make it Happen! Discover More Love and Passion (check out the last page, there is a special offer.)

I saw this on Dr Ava’s blog (www.dravablog.com) and had to share it. We talked about it and the recipe to women’s fantasies varies from women to women — so what would be your fantasy recipe? Feel free to share it here. Take a look at the suggested fantasy ingredients and see how you would customize the recipe for your personal fantasies.

There are six types of love – they were categorized by John Allen Lee. Love is a multidimensional part of our life – so there is no way one – four letter word could sum up the diversity of love in our lives.

The six categories include: agape, eros, ludus, mania, pragma and storge. You may have heard of a couple of those, but let’s take a closer look at each type.

Agape

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 gives us the scriptural description of agape love: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

Do you describe love as selfless, generous and a sacrifice? These words can be seen as positives or negatives, depending on the person. This is often a love that does not include intimacy or giving and receiving. However, agape lovers will often remain faithful to one another to avoid pain. In a healthy marriage, sex and intimacy are a gift for the partners. People who chose to have agape love in a marriage can suffer by inattention to each other’s physical, mental and emotional needs.

Eros

Eros is often described as “love at first site” and “being struck by cupid’s arrow”. There are many schools of thought about how lasting eros love can be. Eros lovers are very passionate, have sensual desires and they enjoy touching. This type of love leads to that “honeymoon” feeling and some people claim to be “twitterpated”.

This is the type of love where people can be drawn together because of a physical attraction. Over time this can cool and they “fall out of love” with each other. In some cases, a deeper and long lasting love can develop. In the beginning of a relationship, people often put their best foot forward. But as they get to know each other better, they may or may not “fall” deeper in love with one another on a deeper level. This high intensity love can be very short lived if both people are not willing to work to maintain it.

Ludus

Ludus is a playful and flirtatious love. People who enjoy the chase phase of a relationship may experience this type of love. They enjoy chasing, playing the game and the conquest of a new person. However, once they catch this person, the relationship i often over.

Many people like a loving relationship for the security and commitment – that is not an appeal in ludus love. It is not uncommon for ludus love to move on to a new potential conquest before the previous relationship has ended. This is the lover who likes to make notches on their bedpost to keep count of their conquests – it is quantity of “love” over quality. They may also see love as a trap and view the ability to reproduce to be a sign of masculinity.

Mania

Mania is a destructive love that is extreme, wild and can be dangerous. This love has many highs and lows . The person can go from intense attraction and great intensity and then neediness, jealousy and obsession.

A maniac lover has an unreasonable fear of losing their partner and need to be reassured all the time. Even reassurance often are not enough to lessen the intense nature of their manic love. This person will stalk, smother, work very hard to possess and control their partner. A manic lover often has low self esteem and that manifests itself in the way they treat their partner.

Manic lovers may view marriage or a long term relationship as a means of ownership. Children may be seen as a competition for other’s attention or children may be used as a substitute for their lover. Sex can be used as a way to gain reassurance of their partner’s love. It is not uncommon for a manic love to lead to an addictive and/or codependent relationship.

Pragma

Pragma is a practical love that may fill a need the way a business arrangement would. Each partner brings something to the relationship that the other needs and has a value to each other, such as – money, stability, a home, a parent for a child, etc. This love is convenient for each partner and their compatibility can have nothing to do with intimacy or sex. Although it is convenient, these relationships are not always successful.

This love is very rational and they often have real expectations about their partner. These partners may work harder to avoid infidelity because they want to avoid the consequences of their action. This prompts them to weigh the cost and reward of the relationship – often without the usual emotional persuasion. Sex may be considered to be a reward between the partners or only as a means to have children. Depending on the person, marriage and children can seem like assets or liabilities.

Storge

How many times have we read or watched the story of a person debating whether they should have a relationship with a best friend or a passionate lover? Storge love is the answer to this question. Storge gives you the best of both world. You friend and lover are the same person. This love begins as a friendship and over time a deeper love and intimacy develop between the two people.

The friendship and this closeness is a primary attraction to the relationship. There can be passion – but the passion and sex in the relationship is often secondary to the intimacy they enjoy. They can spend very satisfying intimate time together and be satisfied even if it does not lead to sexual intimacy. This does not mean that sex is not a part of the relationship, but the other elements of their love are often more important to their happiness. These people have peace, security and stability in their love that other people may never know. Even if the romantic elements of the relationship lessen over time, they maintain the valued friendship.

Excerpt from Love Certification Course by Dr Ava Cadell

These are types of lovers who make, good matches, possible matches, difficult matches and dangerous matches.

Good Match

Eros + Eros

Storge + Storge

Pragma + Pragma

Possible Match

Storge + Eros

Agape + Eros

Ludus + Ludus

Storge + Pragma

Storge + Agape

Mania + Mania

Difficult Match

Eros + Ludus

Eros + Manic

Pragma + Ludus

Agape + Ludus

Mania + Storge

Agape + Mania

Pragma + Agape

Agape + Agape

Dangerous Match

Pragma + Eros

Ludus + Storge

Ludus + Mania

Mania + Pragma

Love Certification Course From Loveology University

This Course Is For You If:

* You want to Learn the 5 Ingredients of Love
* You want to Find and Keep Everlasting Love
* You want to Know How to Love A Woman versus a Man
* You want to Know the Difference Between Love and Lust

Welcome to Loveology University’s Love Certification Course. Who else offers a certification on a course as valuable as love? In this course you’ll learn about the history of love, the different kinds of love and how to get the love you need. From self-love, romantic love to passionate love, this course offers groundbreaking techniques to make your life a loving one. You’ll learn about the 5 essential ingredients to finding love, 12 keys to keeping love, how to love a woman verses how to love a man and some fascinating statistics on love around the world. So if you want more love in your life, start by becoming certified in LU’s course on love.

http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=31&a_aid=litekepr

For a sneak peek into some of the information in the kissing course from Loveology University – watch Dr Ava on The Doctors in this video clip

http://www.thedoctorstv.com/main/home_page?init_type=Feature&init_id=3242?

Here are some details from the Kissing Course – (in California you can earn CEUs with this course)

• What Kissing Is
• Kinds of Kisses
• History of Kissing
• Myths of Kissing
• Preparing for the Kiss
• The Art of Kissing
• Kissing Rules
• What Can be Kissed
• Kissing Targets
• G-Love
• Where to Sneak a Kiss
• Kissing – How To
• Tantra Kisses
• Kissing Positions
• Kissing All Five Senses
• Kissing Boundaries
• Healing Kisses
• Kissing Fears
• Kiss-ercise
• Kissing Games
• Kissing Concerns
• Orgasmic Kissing
• Kissing with Piercing
• The Hickey Kiss
• Kissing Crimes
• Kissing the Genitals

and more……

These are some of the things covered in the course — and the homework is wonderful

This Course Is For You If:

• You want to Learn the Art of Tantric Kissing
• You want to Discover What Can and Should be Kissed
• You want to Become Skilled at Kissing Positions
• You want to Know the Secret to Orgasmic Kissing

The divorce rate gets higher each year, less people are getting married each year and there are more dysfunctional families each year. It would seem these facts prove people need coaching in their relationships.  Have you worked on your relationship with yourself? Do you have a healthy love and respect for yourself? That is the first step to being able to have a successful relationship with your partner.

Goals When Working with a Love Coach/Relationship Coach

• Make a real difference in the coach’s life and the lives of clients
• Share positive and unbiased information about love, relationships, intimacy and sexuality
• Provide positive information to empower clients to give and receive love
• Teach clients to communicate their needs effectively
• Support clients to set their own goals and to make their own decisions
• Empower clients to live and love to the fullest
• Provide honest, complete and non-judgmental support
• Listen to our clients and help them develop a plan to reach their goals
• Help clients understand and reach their personal potential through a strategic plan

It is not the coach’s job to make the decisions for their client, but to help the client look inside themselves, learn more about themselves, learn to love themselves and set the goals that will help them reach their personal goals.

A love and relationship coach helps you learn to love yourself and others. For many people, learning to have a healthy love for themselves, will set them on the road to much healthier and more positive love with other people. It’s hard to expect someone else to love us, when we don’t love ourselves.

Coaches help with various types and stages of relationships, including: social, romantic, sexual and intimate.  Whether you want to prepare for a successful long term relationship or if you want to improve a current relationship – you can benefit from working with a love coach.

Love coaching and relationship coaching is not therapy, is not psychology or psychiatry – we don’t cure you or heal you. Instead, we help you look inside of yourself, determine what you need and how to make your life and your relationships better – on all levels.

Would you like more information? Contact me at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com and we can determine if a relationship can help you? Each coach has a niche or focus, click here (http://lovecoachjourney.com/goals/) to understand more about my focus.

Men need to understand that knowing the techniques to please a woman can be a very rewarding experience. Understanding the ways to truly and deeply please a woman – will give you a sense of power. It makes you the ideal partner. It makes you the only man she will want. It makes her ask you for sex – would you enjoy that? Then, read on.

Truly pleasing intimacy and sex involve being aware and being able to know what a woman wants and desires. This is not a tip sheet just to get a woman into bed – it goes deeper than that. This is instruction to enable you to please a woman on a deeper level and to build a lasting bond between you.

There are three characteristics a man needs to please a woman:

• She needs a father figure – he will care, protect and support her when she needs his support
• She needs a lover – he will appreciate, desire and respect her, and make passionate love to her
• She needs a mischievous little boy – be fun, playful and unpredictable, keep things interesting

There are times when your woman wants you to take control. She knows you want sex – but show that you want and desire her. Show that you want to please her. She wants you to help her feel confident sexually – it is always great to encourage her to take the lead in your sexual activities. When she shows initiative and instigates sex – encourage her, but let her maintain control. Otherwise, you can discourage her from taking the lead in the future.  When she shows the initiative, let her know that you are ready, willing and able to participate and to please her.

Keep your lovemaking, fun, unpredictable and enjoyable. There are times when you both need to have fun and to laugh. You never want to laugh at a lover, but have fun and laugh with your lover. This is one area where that mischievous little boy is needed. Let the fun loving little girl in your woman come through.  Laughter is a key to a lasting and satisfying relationship.

This can be very beneficial for parents who are preoccupied with home, work and children. When your children are asleep or out of the house, close the door and be totally submerged in time for you and your woman – not the dutiful mother, but the fun, sensual woman you want to please.

There are many more tips to pleasing a woman – including the ways to please a woman, the benefits of pleasing a woman and individual techniques to please her emotionally, mentally, physically and sexually. For more detail, check the How to Please a Woman home study course from Loveology University – http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=35&a_aid=litekepr

What is the most important relationship in your life? We love our family and we all have friends that we love. The relationship with our significant other, husband, wife, or partner is one that we need to nurture and build. But how many people do you know in unhappy or unhealthy relationships?

Many of us grew up in a household where our parents stayed together “for the children”, but we knew they were unhappy. Did you grow up promising yourself that you would never make those same mistakes? You’re in good company if you did – but many people do not have the knowledge they need to have a successful, long term relationship. So, do you just continue to stay in an unhappy relationship? Do you leave someone you love because you just can’t figure out the problems? Or, do you have another choice? Yes – you do have a choice.

There are many possible reasons why a relationship is especially rocky and difficult. I found long ago that if you don’t feel good about yourself – dare I say, if you don’t love yourself – it is very difficult if not impossible to be in a healthy relationship with someone else. Growing up, I was taught all the things that “good girls” don’t do. I was also told that anyone who does certain “unapproved” things – is a bad person. Many people have similar experiences, but what can you do about these things?

In some religions, some societies, and some families, you will be treated badly, talked down to or even banned – for “unacceptable” behavior. This often leads to excessive sexual guilt that can wreak havoc with future relationships. It can lead women to feel they shouldn’t enjoy sex, it can lead to “sexless” marriages where both partners are unhappy and it can lead to many other issues in your relationship.

People seldom feel this is something you would talk with a psychiatrist or psychologist about – and it certainly isn’t something that you would talk to your minister about. So, what option do you have? You can schedule an appointment with a love coach – also known as a relationship coach.

As a relationship coach – I work with people to help with many different problems. Some of the things I like to focus on include:

• Learning to love yourself and accept yourself as you are
• Learning to get in touch with your sexuality and “feel comfortable in your own skin”
• Learning to deal with inhibitions and/or self esteem issues
• Helping men and women better understand their sexuality and how it affects their lives
• Work with individuals or couples, to build a solid foundation for a long term relationship.

The building blocks of a solid relationship can include: learning to flirt (for new or established relationships), successful dating (for new or established relationships), learn to communicate effectively, develop a real intimacy with your partner, the art of kissing, understand and develop a lasting love, learn the skills and emotions of stimulating foreplay, how to enrich your life as a couple and much more.

I would be very happy to provide a 20 minute consultation to discuss your concerns and whether I can help you. I meet with clients in a variety of ways: instant message, chatting, phone or in person (if feasible). I am located in the Shenandoah Valley of Virginia and welcome the opportunity to talk with you. Feel free to contact me at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com and you can visit my blog at http://www.lovecoachjourney.com for posts on a wide variety of relationship topics.

Learn more about how to become a Love Coach — its an investment in your future and provides you with a way to help other people improve their lives too. http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/CourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=22&a_aid=litekepr