The 12 Stepping Stones

Sometimes actions speak louder than words, but there are times when words are important too. In a relationship, each partner wants and needs verbal assurance of their partner’s love. Saying I love you and expressing how much important your partner is to you is one of the best ways to assure your partner. So, on Valentine’s Day, lovers should not miss an great opportunity to say something nice to a person he or she loves.

You might have heard these worn out phrases:

• You are the love of my life
• You are my only true love
• I cannot live without you

But why not try some new and different. For instance, 1 Corinthians tells us that “love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not envy, it is not proud…”

If you want literary pieces, there is this quotable Shakespeare. Listed below are lines from varying literary pieces of Shakespeare:

• Love is not love that alters when alteration finds

• Love looks not with the eyes but with the mind; and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind

• All days are nights to see till I see thee, And nights bright days when dreams do show thee to me

You may prefer philosopher giants like Socrates, Aristotle and Thoreau. They too are often quoted when they describe the feeling of love.

• The hottest love has the coldest end –Socrates

• Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies –Aristotle

• There is no remedy to love but to love more –Thoreau

Religious icons such as St. Augustine and Mother Teresa have a lot to say about love.

• Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all –St. Augustine

• If you judge people, you have no time to love them –Mother Teresa

Love quotes can also be culled from novels, plays and poems like the one from Les Miserables: To love another person is to see the face of God.

Charles Dickens in one of his novels wrote, “Never close your lips to those whom you have opened your heart.” Meanwhile, Charlie Brown wrote, “Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love.” Here are some well-known quotes from writers:

• Love is the true means by which the world is enjoyed: our love to others, and others’ love to us.” –Thomas Trahern.

• True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime but lust just pushes away.” – Alicia Barnhart

• “The Eskimos have 52 words for snow because it is so special to them; there ought to be as many for love!” – Margaret Atwood

• Love reckons hours for months, and days for years; and every little absence is an age.” –John Dryden.

Indeed, these quotes are beautiful to hear on Valentine’s Day. However, lovers should not forget that you could never go wrong with real words coming from the heart.

For many years, guys and gals growing up getting their sex cues from Hollywood romances didn’t have a clue about how to kiss. That changed with more realistic kisses coming to the movies, but now the pendulum has gone beyond that point with most movie kisses looking like the two combatants are consuming each other for lunch.

This has caused more than a few folks to fail to understand how a kiss should work, and what methods might be employed to arouse the ardor in a lover with a simple kiss.

Unlike today’s movies, you shouldn’t jump into your lover’s mouth like a high-speed chase through a tunnel. Instead, build her anticipation by kissing all around her face. Begin your kiss slowly and gently with emotion and sensitivity.

First, kiss without using your tongue, slightly open mouthed, with sweet breath. Only after this initial modest kiss should you start to get serious, and only when your lover indicates that she’s ready for more (usually by using her tongue or by opening her mouth more widely to invite your tongue in).

From this point, there are a variety of ways you can continue this interplay:

• Take your lover’s bottom lip between the two of yours and suck gently.

• Trace the outline of your lover’s lips with the tip of your tongue.

• While kissing, lick you lover’s teeth with your tongue.

• To increase sexual excitement, make your kiss wet.

• Wrap your lips around your lover’s tongue and suck passionately.

• Use hot or cold liquids to create erotic sensations.

• Kissing her eyelids and ears.

The key to success in all this is to go slowly, and to keep things modest especially with the first few kisses. Be sure to follow your lover’s kissing techniques and emulate them. Little by little the two of you will learn what works best.

Then put your knowledge to good use, bringing her slowly closer to consummating your encounter.

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Although a breast augmentation is generally safe and give most women great results, you need to take into account the possible risks and complications that go with any surgical intervention. To help you make an informed decision, here’s an overview of the potential health problems of breast enlargement surgery.

Risks during surgery

All surgeries carry risks, even with the most experienced surgeons. The most common risks are from reactions to the general anesthesia, either because of allergies or a bad dose calculation. Make sure you have a certified anesthesiologist assisting your surgeon.

Breast augmentation surgery also carries risks of excessive bleeding and hematomas. You will be given instructions to avoid blood thinners a few weeks before the surgery.

Your surgical wounds may become infected during or after the surgery. This can easily be taken care of with antibiotics, but you must contact your doctor about problems or concern.

Risks around the implant

A breast implant is a foreign object in your body, and as such it also may provoke a bad reaction from your body. These include:

• Capsular contracture. A capsular contracture is the formation of scar tissue around the implant that will make it look unnatural and potentially painful. While scar tissue is normal, severe capsular contracture might require further surgery or even a breast implant replacement.
• Displacement. Any time after surgery, your breast implant may move out of its ideal position, to the side or downward. This is an uncommon problem but is most likely to happen with larger implants.
• Deflation and rupture. Saline implants deflate and silicone implants rupture. Saline deflation is safer than silicone rupture, as your body naturally absorbs saline. A silicone rupture, however, carries health risks that might provoke a capsular contracture. Both problems require further surgery and the replacement of the implant.
• Rippling. Rippling is a somewhat common problem with saline implants, where the saline moves around in the implant and makes ripples in the implant that show through the skin.
• Sloshing. Sloshing happens in saline implants. Saline may move in the implant, producing a soft sloshing sound that may only be perceivable by the women with the implant. It does not happen with silicone implants.

Other risks

There are also some physiological problems that may derive from getting breast implants:

• Mammography interference. Implants can get in the way of mammography because it hides up to 25% of your breast tissue. Implants installed under the muscle are less likely to interfere than those put over the muscle. Self-exams are still effective, however, and you can also get MRIs and ultrasounds without any problems.
• Nipple desensitization. Breast surgery involves removing the nipple and placing it back at a more aesthetic position on the augmented breast. This carries a 15% risk of numbness and loss of sensation.

Before undergoing breast enlargement surgery, you should be aware of all the risks and possible complications. You should forego getting the intervention if you are not ready to accept the risks. Even though a small proportion of women suffer from any of these, there are always risks with any kind of cosmetic interventions.

Touch a woman’s mind you get her interest.

Touch a woman’s heart you get her love.

Touch a woman’s soul you get passion beyond your wildest dreams!

To realize
The value of a sister/brother
Ask someone
Who doesn’t have one.

To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
Divorced couple.

To realize
The value of  four years:
Ask a graduate.

To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.

To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.

To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature  baby..

To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize
The value of one-second:
Ask a person who has survived an accident.

Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.

You will treasure it even more when
You can share it with someone special.

To realize the value of a friend or family member:
LOSE ONE.

The origin of this letter is unknown,
But it brings good luck to everyone who passes it on.

Remember….

Hold on tight to the ones you  love!

Women cheaters are rapidly catching up to men because they are more independent than ever before, both economically and sexually. With more female breadwinners, it’s no wonder they feel entitled to get their share of sex and are taking responsibility for their own pleasure. Women are less inhibited about asking for what they want and not being afraid to cheat if they don’t get their needs met.  For women, communication is the most important ingredient in their relationship, so when the communication lines are closed, they retaliate by using their sexual assets.

The media has finally acknowledged female cheating on popular TV shows like ABC’s Desperate Housewives, so just because the little wife is seemingly disinterested in sex, don’t be surprised when you find out that she has been doing it with the pool boy and the gardener.

TOP 10 SIGNS YOUR WOMAN IS CHEATING

She slacks off from doing household chores like the laundry, cooking family meals, or spends less time with the kids so she can spend more time with her lover.

1. She will be distracted when you are talking to her because she is daydreaming about her lover.
2. She will be less affectionate, spends extra time in the bathroom bathing and doing her hair and makeup for last minute events that do not include you.
3. She buys her own sexy lingerie.
4. She goes on a diet and joins a gym without telling you.
5. She wears more revealing clothes before she leaves the house.
6. She puts on more perfume than usual.
7. She starts criticizing you and comparing you to other men.
8. She isn’t interested in going away for a romantic vacation with you.
9. She leaves the room when she answers her cell phone.

If you would like to keep your woman from wanting or feeling the need to cheat — here are some tips to show you what she wants.

• Give unexpected massages, hair stroking or other physical affection
• Only if sincere, tell her how much she means to you during lovemaking
• Compliment her with “just because” notes or phone calls
• Plan romantic evenings that will fill her with anticipation of what is to come
• Lavish her with oral sex and let her climax first
• Share romantic feelings
• Experiment with role-playing

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I want to feature some erotic reading material. This book is mainstream, but I think it will also appeal to a couple of distinct audiences. One – people who enjoy a healthy dose of sex in their books. Two – women in their 40s and 50s who understand the many layers in their lives, loves and relationships. Life gets complicated and all of our actions have many collateral implications. Author, Phyllis Schieber, is a master at combining all these things and I think you will enjoy this story. One of the characters is even an erotic author– I think you will enjoy the writing process through her eyes. This is my review – don’t you LUV that cover?

Sinners Guide to Confession

Take three best friends, each woman has her own life and family. They share just about everything – but each friend has a secret that she won’t share with her friends or family. Will people think less of her if they know the secret she is hiding? How will her life change if she admits the truth? Will her life be better if she shares the secret? Admitting the truth gives friends and family the chance to help her with the secret – is that what she wants?

Barbara, Kaye and Ellen live in New York and they are each around 50 years old. Barbara recently lost her husband when he died unexpectedly. Thankfully, she has a lucrative career as a romance author and an even more lucrative secret. Her children are grown and on their own, but she is their mother and children have certain expectations about what their mother’s should do.

Kaye has a life with her husband and her children are adults, but her relationship with her husband has grown stale – is her future with him or another man? She meets a man who makes her feel sexy and desired, that makes her “stale” relationship with her husband even harder to tolerate. What will the future bring for Kaye and her family?

Ellen was forced, by her parents, to give up her daughter for adoption. This made her relationship even more strained with her parents and siblings. This forced adoption is even harder to handle as Ellen is married and she is unable to become pregnant. Will Ellen be able to meet her long lost daughter and if she does, can they forge a relationship?

Each of these women has a strong support system in place, but she needs to make the decision to trust these people with the secrets she is hiding. Their journey to self discovery takes you on an interesting, touching, emotion and at times a humorous trek through the pages of The Sinners’ Guide to Confession. Female relationship stories are not usually my favorite reads, but I thoroughly enjoyed this book and often found myself laughing at great one liners and other times reaching for tissues as I read this very well written book by Phyllis Schieber.

To find out more about Sinners Guide to Confession — http://www.amazon.com/Sinners-Guide-Confession-Phyllis-Schieber/dp/0425221539

“Last night was intense. I cannot believe we even did that! I cannot wait to be alone again. It’s like a whole new level of the game just opened up for me. Just thinking about last night leaves me hot and unable to focus on anything.” Does this sound familiar? It probably doesn’t, unless you are in a brand new relationship.

New relationships always start out pretty steamy. There’s always excitement surrounding doing anything sexual with a new partner. It’s invigorating to say the least! Wouldn’t it be nice to keep that level of excitement even after years of being with your partner? Try spicing up your sex life with a little experimentation.

Be sure to talk openly about experimentation. It’s important to know and respect each other’s boundaries. Once you are both comfortable with each other enough to talk about the things you would like to try, it will make the experimenting loads of dirty fun!

Below is a short list of fun ways to add a zing of excitement to your sex life.

1. Try a little light bondage.

Use whatever your saucy little heart desires as bonding material. Try starting with an easy place, like your bed, and work up to the more exciting places, like your back porch railing or the stair case or even the tree outside!

2. Add Toys.

Take your partner to an adult toy shop (or shop online if you’re the shy type) and each pick out a toy that you would like your partner to use on you. Once you get home, let the fun begin. Make sure to let down your guards and guide your partner through what you want.

3. Make your fantasy come true.

Think of the sexiest place you would like to get frisky in, then go there. You and your partner should both take turns picking places. Don’t leave out any details. Make sure to make your real-life fantasy as true to your imagined one as possible. Dress the part!

4. Use your senses.

When one of our senses is taken away, our other senses are sharpened to make up for the lost. Try blindfolding your partner. They won’t know what to expect next. Every intimate touch will be heightened to its fullest. Use tingling lube or ice cubes to really drive their senses wild.

5. Videotape yourselves.

Try setting up a video camera and act out your scenes. Make sure to watch it after you’re through. Being caught in the act and liking it can be quite fun. Being able to laugh at yourselves sexually will lighten the mood and make it even easier to speak to your partner about sexy time.

Stacey Cavalari holds a B.A in Communications and currently writes for Viamedic.com , a safe pharmacy for consumers to obtain FDA-approved medications such as Viagra, Cialis and Levitra Online. Stacey uses her communications and research skills to cover health and wellness on the Viamedic.com Blog.